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17.4.14

Depression - How to be Happy

Continuing on from my previous post on depression, let's take a look at happiness.  Not that depression is the absence of happiness but it is difficult to be happy while suffering with depression.  Some people can just be happy - I envy them. Other people, like myself, have to make an effort to be happy. Don't get me wrong, I have happy days that just come and it's wonderful.  It's those other days, the days when I have to work at it that are a bit more difficult. You see, I believe happiness is a choice. We can choose to be happy but it does require some effort on our part.

I have days when even getting out of bed is difficult.  Being self employed makes it even more difficult as I have no one to answer to but myself. Sometimes I just stay in bed and work on my laptop - that way I still get some work done without having to find the strength to get up.  Other days I have to force myself to get up and have to find a reason to get up.  I am not lazy I just struggle sometimes with the will to get through a day.  This is not an everyday occurrence, most days I get up between 5-6am, spend time with God and get on with things, but some days are just plain difficult.  These are the days when I have to work at being happy. Then there are occasional days, maybe one in a month, when I just clear my diary and cry all day. These days are a write off but if I allow myself time to just get it out of my system then I am ok for another month or more. However, if I try soldier on through I will start leaking tears at the most inconvenient of times and often in public, so I have learned just to allow myself a day of crying all my tears out.

Here are a few keys that I have found helpful when doing my best to find happiness:

Perspective
There is always more than one perspective of the same situation. If you are having difficulty with a particular situation it is always helpful to try to see if from different angles.  Many times a change in perspective can really lift the weight.

Attitude
Work on your thoughts as they carry power. Whatever you think you become and if you are constantly thinking negative or unhappy thoughts then you will remain stuck in unhappiness. Force yourself to think about positive things even if you don't feel positive at the time.

Choice
Finding things to be happy about by choice is a great way to lift the weight.  Again it is a battle in the mind but if you force yourself to think about happy things by choice then you will feel better.  Usually when I feel particularly depressed I find myself thinking about depressing things.  However, if I have the strength I can choose to find things that make me happy and force my mind to meditate on these things.

Hope's Journey has quite a few more powerful keys such as eating spicy food and chocolate, sunshine, exercise, eating and so much more tips for finding happiness, so I do recommend reading it and seeing what works for you.
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13.4.14

David Cameron’s Easter Speech



I have never seen our nation's leaders stand up for Christianity as I have seen in the recent years.  David Cameron is putting his career on the line when he mixes his faith with his politics but yet he continues to be open about it.  Being a Christian is not easy, it comes with many challenges, preconceived ideas from others and opposition.  Being a politician is no easy either, again it comes with so much hardship and little reward. It seems that everyone has an opinion and Christians and politicians can do little right - if they make one mistake the are branded forever by it. People quickly forget all that they did right and hang on to their one mistake. Personally, I think being open and honest about Christianity is risky and being a politician is dangerous.  So, combining the two means multiplying the challenges, the risks and the dangers. For what? What is in it for the Christian or the politician?  There is little or no personal gain, they are merely public servants and could probably earn more with a lot less trouble in a secular career.

I for one am more determined than ever to be slow to judge and quick to encourage any Christian whether in business, politics or ministry who is taking a brave stand for that they believe to be truth.  Yes, some Christians who have attempted to take a stand have fallen.  None of us are infallible and are tempted.  If a brother falls, we are to do as the Bible clearly says:

"If your brother wrongs you, go and show him his fault, between you and him privately. If he listens to you, you have won back your brother."  
- Matthew 18:15 Amplified Bible

Let's start with dealing with things privately and only if we cannot win the person back then we can apply the rest of Matthew 18 accordingly.

Let's put our pointing fingers away and start encouraging what they do right, love should cover the rest.

"Above all things have intense and unfailing love for one another, for love covers a multitude of sins [forgives and disregards the offenses of others]"    
- Peter 4:8 Amplified Bible (AMP)

Love doesn't mean that you condone or support their actions. You don't have to agree with what they do but you do have to love them through it as they work things out.  When it comes to leaders who are taking such a huge risk to fight for Christianity I would suggest that you pray for them, love them and support them as best you can.  Only criticise if you have the guts to actually do what they are doing.  I can assure you that it is too easy to judge if you have never walked the path that they have had to walk.

"Never criticize a man until you've walked a mile in his moccasins."
- American Indian Proverb

I already have a much deeper admiration for politicians as I started my campaign for the upcoming local elections last Friday and had to go door to door to introduce myself.  It was not easy and some people can be quite rude and hurtful, others were very supportive and lovely.  I quickly realised that all those who are currently in the position that I am applying for have gone through the same thing many times over.

RESPECT to them.  I don't think many could go door to door and still serve the people that they are called to lead. My journey is just beginning and I have much to learn but I will keep you updated and take you along with me as much as possible.

Here are some recent articles about the stand David Cameron is taking.  Let's support him in this and show him that the church and business community indeed do want to work alongside the government to make this nation an even better one.

David Cameron’s Easter Speech
David Cameron Big Society

The Queen's Christmas Speech 2012

And on that note, our Queen did a superb job of sharing the gospel in her 2012 Christmas address, one of my favourite speeches ever.  Read the Queen's 2012 Christmas speech here or watch the video below.

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9.4.14

Proudly British

One of the many things that the Americans get right is their patriotism!  I often see American homes with their flags proudly hanging outside their door or hear them speak highly of their country.  It is a wonderful thing. Here in the UK I often see Brazilian flags, Polish flags and other flags from foreigners living here who are proud of the country they have come from.  NEVER have I seen a British flag displayed in front of a British person's home and all I EVER hear from locals is their complaints about this country.  COME ON PEOPLE!  The country is made up of you and I. Let's start off with being proud to be British.  Let's support local businesses.  Let's find good things to say about our country. Let's back up and support our leaders who are doing their best to do what they think is right for this nation. It is usually those that do the least that say the most.  Judge your own mouth and your own actions please. Until you are willing to step in 'their' shoes please say a lot less.

Yes I know, I have a South African accent!!!  I am grateful to South Africa for raising me but I was born right here in the UK and now the UK is my home.  I implore you, let us become proudly British.  To kick start the process please join me in displaying this logo on your website, blog, Facebook page, etc.



Now let's start sharing and support local businesses and our government.  In the posts to come we will be discussing what is good about our country and I would like to feature some of YOU.  Please email me your Proudly British story with a good quality photo and I will feature you.

See you at our next Business, Ministry and Politics event!

*** NOTE:  Being proudly British does not mean that we bash or bad mouth other nations.  That defeats the purpose entirely.  Being proudly British simply means that we point out the great things about our country - FULL STOP - not by comparison to other countries. As Christians we are called to love all no matter what their nationality.  It's sad that I even have to say this but please keep the balance to all this, if we don't have anything good to say rather say nothing at all :)
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5.4.14

What is Politics?

THIS MONDAY 7th April 2014 we launch our brand new event called Business, Ministry and Politics. King's Daughters has taken a very definite direction change into these three areas with an emphasis on how we use these areas to share the gospel.  We are called to be salt and light and it is our mission and obsession to get the salt and light into the places where it is needed.  As Christians we need to seek and desire places of influence within our communities so that we can be salt and light.  What good is salt if it remains in it's container and what good is light if it isn't in darkness?  We must position ourselves in places of darkness in order to be light but don't go alone.  If you are in business (either self employed or employed) then are you using your position to lead and shine?  If you are in politics are you using your influence in your town, city and nation?  If you are in ministry are you teaching and equipping those around you to be light and are you serving the need in your community?  If all we do with our faith is feel good and build our lives then what good are we to the world around us?  We need to be 'out there' paying the price so that those who are far away from God can come closer.

King's Daughters has focused on the area of ministry since 2009 and more recently on the business world since 2013.  This year we will delve into the world of politics too.  So before we even go there let's break it down with the very first question - What is Politics?

I ask this question because it is one that I has to answer for myself.  After exploring politics I came to the conclusion that it is simply the 'management' of a town, city and nation.  Since I am comfortable with management and community work I decided that politics is a lot less 'scary' that I first thought.

My next step was to choose a party so I prayerfully chose the Conservative Party.  This doesn't mean that I agree with everything that they stand for.  When we chose to shine our light in darkness this doesn't mean that we agree with the darkness that we are shining in, it simply means that we are positioning ourselves to shine and influence those around us.  To be honest, I don't think the party that you choose matters as much as your willingness to serve in the party and to be an influence to it.  We need Christians in ALL the parties who influence this nation.

Don't  be one of those people that complain about the government but refuse to be involved!  Read Isaiah 9:6 then pray for and support the government.  Don't be one of those people that say that you don't do politics either.  As a Christian you should be involved in your community one way or another and if you are not involved in ministry or business then may I suggest contributing to your political party.    

We will continue to explore this theme in the months ahead.  In the meantime, if you really and truly want to do what Jesus called us to do in  Mark 16:15 then book your place at Business, Ministry and Politics at www.kingsdaughtersleaders.eventbrite.co.uk and let's get on with it!
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